Complement (Ephesians 5:21)

When I was a young adult in college, I was participating in a church study group discussion in which we were asked to describe our ideal spouse. Most of the comments centered upon shared interests and spiritual compatibility. No surprises there. While none of the participants were married, one couple was involved in a serious relationship so I was particularly interested to hear their perspective. I was quite surprised by their revelations. 


“Jake and I have no common interests!” Sally gleefully exclaimed!


“Oh!” The moderator of the group flashed a half-surprised look.


“Yup! I like watching sports, Jake likes watching Jeopardy! I skateboard and Jake golfs!” She playfully nudged him with her elbow as Jake smiled and nodded. 


“I don’t know! Maybe we shouldn’t be together! Oh-oh!” She let out a howl as our group collapsed in laughter. 


This couple eventually got married. He is an engineer, introverted and cerebral, while she is a school teacher, extroverted and bubbly. They take separate vacations. He enjoys bird watching and walks in nature while she enjoys spas and wine tastings. Their relationship exudes a closeness and compatibility that belies their seeming incompatibilities. As they declared on numerous occasions, “God put us together because He knew we complement each other.”


The great Christian apologist and evangelist, Ravi Zacharias, once preached how God always provides what we need. Paul was suffering from an unknown physical ailment, one that he dramatically described in his second letter to the Corinthian church (2 Corinthians 12:1-10). God sent Dr. Luke, a physician, to be the Apostle Paul’s traveling and missionary companion. The greatest evangelist and defender of the nascent Christian Church accompanied by a physician who would help care for his ailing body. Paul did not ask God for a physician. God not only provided him with a physician but a fellow missionary and gifted writer who became a major author of the New Testament. God gave Paul what he needed because they complemented each other. 


Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Ephesians 5:21 (NIV)


Jake and Sally had it correct from the beginning of their relationship. They were not simply seeking compatibility, they sought God’s direction and guidance to complement one another. God honored and answered their prayers and blessed their marriage. They were embracing their differences, recognizing that it gave them each an opportunity to respond to each other with the same love that Jesus Christ cared for each of them and all believers who place their faith and trust in Him.


Love and trust the Lord; seek His will in your life.


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